In the London Underground commuters are warned to “mind the gap,” lest they fall between the platform and the open door to the train.The gap is dangerous. To fall into it, deadly. Between what we know and don’t know there is also a gap. It goes by many names —…

A Sketch a Day, Everyday: What I’ve Learned So Far Art is never the result of what you set out to do. At the beginning of the year, my friend Mindy convinced me to do a sketch a day with her. …

What salmon know about how to defy gravity It turns out facing things is not as hard, not nearly as hard, as resisting them. …

It turns out that the key to learning how to walk is learning how to fall. Infants who are learning to walk don’t move forward in one continuous straight line.They take a step, lose their balance and fall.They speed forward, stop short, fall backward. …

What does it means for women to have “a really big life?” Watching Mrs. Maisel, especially during the pandemic, showed me a delicious possibility at a time in my life when I was asking myself if I could be braver, if I too could defy the rules of my good girl upbringing and claim for myself a bigger life. I loved Midge’s…

I did an image search on Canva for “stranger.” I got a series of photos of child predators in cars , some offering candy: Stranger danger. The big bad Wolf. Or I got images like the one above the monsters we dread meeting at night when we are alone —…

Diary of a West Coast Swing Dancer, part 1 I have spent most of my life making plans, obsessively and exhaustively for a life I have not actually lived. In my late 20s, my first long term relationship ended, I was in graduate school, finishing two graduate programs simultaneously and the center of my world, my sense of security…

I introduced myself at a women’s networking event, with a poem I liked, written by a woman I knew: Lost & Found I was born old & serious Some would say a bit weird & curious I did have dreams of how I’d like to spend my life But I…

The Case of the Missing Home, part 2 (Watch/listen to the audio version here) For those of you who have been following The Case of the Missing Home, here’s a quick recap of what has happened so far: A dancer I’d met a few times socially, wrote me one day…